Travelling with baby

Travelling with a baby on a long journey presents a number of challenges. In order to understand these challenges its important to understand the unique needs of this individual.

On the positive side the baby’s small size allows it to be transported with no extra fare. Of course some forms of transport will charge for the 10kgs of weight and the air consumed over the distance. An example here would be Air India.

As I was saying, the baby has very different requirements than the average person. For one, no rules and strictures apply to babies. Prone to being upset, throw tantrums, make loud noises at inappropriate times even spit and vomit at the slightest provocation, it is important the caregivers travel with an arsenal of gimmicks  in order to please and placate the baby. Fortunately, the baby is easily appeased, albeit with antics which may be embarrasing to the care giver. Silly faces, rude noises and noise-making toys may be utilized for low to medium upsets. For more greivous situations the “peek-a-boo” may be utilized. Sadly If that doesnt work the caregivers must resort to embarrasing jigs and dances providing free entertainment to the general public.

To add insult to injury the repercussions of a tantrum, insufficiently handled, usually involves soiled clothes. Caregivers with quick reflexes may avoid soiling their own clothes but baby’s clothes  usually end up soiled. To deal with this atleast 2 pairs of clothes need to be carried. Beware: changing clothes is a tantrum trigger.

Another tantrum trigger is feed. Always carry lots of extra feed at all times. Signs that its time for feed are arbitrary tears or over activity. There will generally be a heated discussion between caregivers when trying to decide if its feed time, this is usually because noone really has a clue. Why the baby cant just point to the feed bottle when it is hungry is just one of those inconveniences of life.

Thankfully the life of caregivers is not all bleak as for long periods of time the baby will rest in blissful slumber. These are periods of immense relief and relaxation. General happiness abounds and its one of those times in life when all members of the family are happy.

From the above it may seem that caring for a baby is a rather austere and cumbersome task but the sweet voice and cute smile of the baby melt the heart and makes it all worth it. Such neurosis is widespread.

The hindi word for children is baccha and comes from the root bachao (atleast it should) which means “Save me!”. Yet another proof of the wisdom of our ancestors.

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Travelling with baby

Travelling with a baby on a long journey presents a number of challenges. In order to understand these challenges its important to understand the unique needs of this individual.

On the positive side the baby’s small size allows it to be transported with no extra fare. Of course some forms of transport will charge for the 10kgs of weight and the air consumed over the distance. An example here would be Air India.

As I was saying, the baby has very different requirements than the average person. For one, no rules and strictures apply to babies. Prone to being upset, throw tantrums, make loud noises at inappropriate times even spit and vomit at the slightest provocation, it is important the caregivers travel with an arsenal of gimmicks  in order to please and placate the baby. Fortunately, the baby is easily appeased, albeit with antics which may be embarrasing to the care giver. Silly faces, rude noises and noise-making toys may be utilized for low to medium upsets. For more greivous situations the “peek-a-boo” may be utilized. Sadly If that doesnt work the caregivers must resort to embarrasing jigs and dances providing free entertainment to the general public.

To add insult to injury the repercussions of a tantrum, insufficiently handled, usually involves soiled clothes. Caregivers with quick reflexes may avoid soiling their own clothes but baby’s clothes  usually end up soiled. To deal with this atleast 2 pairs of clothes need to be carried. Beware: changing clothes is a tantrum trigger.

Another tantrum trigger is feed. Always carry lots of extra feed at all times. Signs that its time for feed are arbitrary tears or over activity. There will generally be a heated discussion between caregivers when trying to decide if its feed time, this is usually because noone really has a clue. Why the baby cant just point to the feed bottle when it is hungry is just one of those inconveniences of life.

Thankfully the life of caregivers is not all bleak as for long periods of time the baby will rest in blissful slumber. These are periods of immense relief and relaxation. General happiness abounds and its one of those times in life when all members of the family are happy.

From the above it may seem that caring for a baby is a rather austere and cumbersome task but the sweet voice and cute smile of the baby melt the heart and makes it all worth it. Such neurosis is widespread.

The hindi word for children is baccha and comes from the root bachao (atleast it should) which means “Save me!”. Yet another proof of the wisdom of our ancestors.

A trip North

Having successfully haggled ( read negotiated) a 2 week holiday from my boss, I found myself rushing to the airport to catch a 5am flight to Delhi. Bubu, my daughter, was thankfully asleep and Paluk, my wife, was also catching a few winks while cradling the toddler. This left me free to watch the new airport rd whizz by while checking my watch with a heightened sense of anxiety at how close we were to missing the flight.

The relief of reaching the airport with 20 min to spare was somewhat extinguished when our luggage trolley toppled on the pavement. This is quite shocking when you consider that the theme of the trip, which my wife had screamed hoarse about from ideation, had been “travel light”. After the initial shock I scrambled about and successfully captured all 8 pieces of luggage.

The morning festivities were far from over. With about 10 min left on the clock we realized that Pranaya’s name was not on the itinerary. With no alternative we had to buy a new ticket for her.

At the checkin  counter Paluk brought up the matter of the missing ticket.

I was past caring now as the seemingly impossible had already been achieved. In fact money back would have counted as a miracle at that time.

Yet Paluk is made of sterner stuff. After a few minutes of disparaging remarks the ticket was found and my money was returned. In what seemed to me a further vindication of disparaging comments as a deliverer of justice to the Indian consumer we were bumped up to business class.

And so, seated on seats 50% larger than what we paid for, enjoying a complimentary breakfast, having to bear Paluks self-congratulatory grin, harbouring feelings of victory against fate, while feeling totally inept at handling the trials of the indian consumer and feeling cosy in the luxury of business class my holiday began with mixed feelings.

Creative Giving

Looking at the games I have been playing for the last few weeks and their results, I have been able to identify a thought process that eats into my energy and literally sucks the enthusiasm for being out there in action.

I find that I work best when the fruits are tangible not only to me but to a larger public. A fruit that everyone out there knows is worth it. In other words “Whats in it for me?” and the answer to this question HAS to be something tangible to a large group of people.

The irony here is that when I do get the result, its of no value to me.

When working for something I want to create, I am constantly nagged by these questions
“Whats in it for me?” “Is this really worth it?” “do I really want to do this?” which eats into my mental bandwidth and ultimately leads to procrastination and low productivity.

When trying to create something that is important to you, one is faced with many people who dont think its very important or you get bewildered by others running towards “tangible” goals.

What you want to create is usually something that is not there right now. The fact that it isnt around also points to the fact that nobody saw any value in it or that there are hurdles that people thought were too much to ask to bring this into the world. Also its not there in your space, so your present way of acting and being are also not aligned with creating it.

But the fact is that “Just because people dont want it, it doesnt mean it has no worth”. I mean 100 years ago who would have wanted the internet ? , but now we cant think of living without it.

Creation is like that, its bringing into existence a new reality. One that you want (if you really really really ask yourself).

What made a difference to me was to look at the conversations that made the experience of Giving joyful and exciting. This regardless of what the returns may be.

Disconnecting Giving and Receiving as 2 separate activities to be enjoyed in their own light gave me an access to making Giving really joyful.

Every act of giving is different and we need to really look at how I can make this giving happy for me?

The answer that came to me (and each of us will have our own answers) is to be creative. Adding Creativity to giving, make it edible to me. And I am sure as time goes on I will find other ways to make the act of giving joyful to me.